27.7.14

Ireland

I went on a long trip in June with my friend Jessica and I'll be posting photos at my leisure and hopefully for your pleasure. I'll start with Ireland. We didn't have a lot of time anywhere but we saw a goodly amount (as evidenced by the hugeness of this post - c'mon you can get through it!). We began and ended out journey in Ireland and Northern Ireland (and events are not in the order experienced). I'm in love with Ireland and I'm ready to move to Ireland any day of the week.

I learned a lot (for the couple days we were there). First, I learned about independence and identity. Second I learned about about identity and immigration.

Kilmainham Jail
Ireland had a civil war about a hundred years ago. When I was young I thought that the Civil War, as in the American Civil War in the 1860s was the only one then had happened or would ever happen and thus we could all call it the Civil War. Unfortunately it's not a the, it's an a. However, like all tragedies great things come to pass, characters come to the front who encourage and inspire us. This is what I learned in Dublin and the Kilmainham jail.


There is a strong feeling there. It's dark and sad. And inhumane. I didn't like it. I think I've only ever felt that way at Dachau, the Nazi concentration camp near Munich, Germany. I took only a few pictures at Kilmainham because of that feeling.  The jail was built in 1796 at a time when humans didn't treat other humans like humans. All genders and ages and offenses were housed together. It was cold, and dark, and damp. During the great famine it was worse, but some would purposely be incarcerated because it was better in than out, though it was horrific in.


And they had gallows, attached right to the front of the building - there are two and it's those little white parts above the doors of the balcony. There is a large snake above the doors. Terrifying. The jail sits on a hill and was a perfect gathering place for publicly hanging people. One would have to have a lot of anger or no emotion at all to be a part of that.


Kilmainham was fairly innovative. They figured out that it was best to have just one inmate per cell and came up with this style of block, where one guard can see the goings-on of many prisoners. I believe that this is the style of many prisons today.

The fame of Kilmainham derives from its execution of the leaders of the Easter Rebellion, the surge towards independence from the island across the way at the beginning of the 20th century and for its holding of other political prisoners. We had to choose between the Book of Kells and Kilmainham and Rick Steves gave Kilmainham more triangles (meaning it's more of a must-see) so we trusted him (as we did at other point and were never disappointed). The experience was dark but inspirational and helped me to understand humans and our history a bit better. I'm glad we went.

Powerscourt and Glendalough
We attended church in Dublin. I love that my faith is the same wherever I am and that I always have friends wherever I go. And every LDS church has a steeple- thank goodness or else we would have never spotted it. I enjoyed church, too, because in faraway Ireland there wasn't the contention and political issues that are plaguing where I currently live. It was a little group of believers who cared most about belief and their relationship with God and Jessica and I both really needed that.


Near Dublin is the beautiful Powerscourt Estate, which the savvy will recognize as the estate of Edmond Dantes in the 2002 film The Count of Monte Cristo. My photos do not to the estate justice.


The gardens are extensive - we didn't even go into any of the buildings - and basically Eden. When have a ever been surrounded by such a massive amount of beauty?! Perhaps only at Butchart Gardens in Victoria BC; but this was wilder perhaps and likely more lush. 





In shocking contrast to Powerscourt is the subtle Glendalough monastery. Nestled to a large hill (I'm from Utah so you have to be huge before I'll call you a mountain) and remove from life, the ruins of a monastic settlement from the sixth (wha!!) century. The buildings, I think, are in fantastic condition. There is a sweet and rather large cemetery with both old and recent headstones. Relatively few people were in the park, giving the verdant surroundings a serene ambiance. 




Northern Ireland
Then we took the journey of several hours to Belfast and drove along the Antrim coast. I had assumed that the scary part of the experience would be driving on the "wrong" side of the road. No, it was the tininess of the roads. Apparently the Irish have no sense of personal space or boundaries. But they do have a gorgeous countryside that, to me, is more relaxing than any sunny Caribbean beach.

Because we got to take a good country drive we saw lots of interesting things, like beef and a pink phone booth (I was only expecting red), and some amazing views.


We visited Carrick-a-Rede rope bridge, a 65-foot bridge suspended almost 100 feet between to jutting rock-island-things (technical term is a volcanic plug, whatever that means). It was used for salmon fishing which was better, until recent years, on the one rock-island thing.



Carrick-a-Rede is green and sea-y and windy. The water is clear and on a clear day you can, apparently, see Scotland.


Not at all far from this magnificent site is the Giant's Causeway, whose sheer hugeness and natural precision cannot be shown photographically. It's an entire cliff-way - can you see the tiny people on the tiny path? We walked it all. And the dark rock at the bottom is anything but ordinary rock. 




Caused by a volcano, the rocks have formed little basalt columns - perfect hexagons, stacked neatly -and you can climb all over them!



The legend goes that a giant, Finn MacCool (that's my real last name) got hit up by the Scottish Giant Benandonner (a similar phenomenon is across the way in Scotland) to have a great fight so Finn built a causeway (road across water or a wetland) so the two could meet up. Scared of Benandonner, Finn was hidden by his wife is a great cradle and presented as a baby. Benandonner gave up the fight, concluding that if the baby was this size the father must be amazingly huge. A sleepier version of the legend says that there was actually a fight and Finn won. (I wonder what the Scots think of that?)


Finn's paraphernalia is all around, a chimney and this "boot" I'm sitting in for example.


We failed to arrive at Dunluce Castle before it closed, but we got to walk around some of the grounds. Being a ruin and all, Jessica and I weren't too disappointed. We were more disappointed to find out that the story about the kitchen of the castle falling into the sea was likely not true.


Ireland is a small, exquisite, beautiful land. I'm saddened by the immigration that is taking place. So many of its people are leaving to find work in other countries - a historical problem. If you are Irish and reading this and you aren't living in Ireland, please go back. I really think Ireland needs you. From what I saw and learned about Ireland there are loads of reasons to be proud and we have to keep that going by keeping as many Irish in Ireland. Beside, your accent (if your national pride keeps the accent) is much too difficult to understand.

25.5.14

Weekend Update 7.2935

Little photo essay on my life.
Family party for the five birthdays that happen in three days in April. 

Our friend Dr Hilary Demske presented the pre-concert lecture and then Miss J and I got to see a great concert. I really love the symphony and the program doesn't really matter. 

Adult dinner for Mom's 70th birthday. It's always so fun to be with the sibs and sibs-in-law. We just love our mother!

With Meredith, the coolest ballet I've ever seen. Not pictured: Meredith's introduction to German food. 

The family that races together stays together - we even met with serendipitously with some cousins. Iron Will 10K at Camp Williams.

Dinner with friends at Eva's Boulangerie (yumo!) and Sweet Charity (ok) with Mer.


Favorite things party. Each person brought their favorite thing (times three) and exchanged it for some new favorite things. It was a total hit and so much fun!

Golden Spike at Promontory Point reenactment - it was pretty cool. Lots of people showed up, they spoke all the original speeches, even drove the spikes. 


 The Spiral Jetty - very close to Promontory - and it's art! Very, very cool art!
On a trip to Vegas, got to see the Mob Museum which was very cool. They have the wall from the St Valentine's Day Massacre, you can "try" a Tommy gun, and see the whole history of the Mob from Prohibition to today. 
The reason for the trip to Vegas - to see two of my favorite plays. Jersey Boys is totally fun and Once is totally lovely. 

18.5.14

Women's Conference 2014

I had the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to be invited to speak at BYU Women's Conference a few weeks ago. Along with three counterparts we spoke in a session about the challenges of parenting young adults. Mary Teichert spoke on supporting young adults who are generally doing well; Hugh Pinnock spoke on assisting young adults who aren't doing anything bad but aren't doing much good; then I spoke on young adults are struggling; finally Liz Rose talked from a parent's perspective on things her family has done with and for their young adults.
Liz, Hugh, me, and Mary
I felt super supported because of friends (Chelsea and Alisha) and family who attended the session with me. I'm so thankful to have had this experience because of the people I worked with and because of the message I was, hopefully, able to share.

My cousin Evelyn, aunties Helen and Marian, my mum, me, and my sis-in-law Cole. 
I later learned that our session had been audio recorded! Though I cannot publish the thoughts of the others, I can publish my own and so if you've 15ish minutes you can listen to me (try to just move on when I mention the Spanish Inquisition and all my "ummms").






I've captured the few quotes I used and I also referenced the following scriptures:

“Children come into this world with their own distinct spirits and personality traits. Some children ‘would challenge any set of parents under any set of circumstances. … Perhaps there are others who would bless the lives of, and be a joy to, almost any father and mother’”  (Dear Are the Sheep that Have Wandered, James E Faust, April 2003).

Orson F. Whitney said, “The Prophet Joseph Smith declared – and he never taught more comforting doctrine – that the eternal sealing of faithful parents and the divine promises made to them for valiant service in the Cause of Truth, would save not only themselves, but likewise their posterity. Thought some of the sheep may wander, the eye of the shepherd is upon them. And sooner or later they will feel the tentacles of Divine Providence reaching out after them and drawing them back to the fold. Either in this life or the life to come, they will return. They will have to pay their debt to justice; they will suffer for their sins; and may tread a thorny path; but if it leads them at last, like the penitent Prodigal, to a loving and forgiving father’s heart and home, the painful experience will not have been in vain. Pray for your careless and disobedient children; hold on to them with your faith. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God.” (Dear Are the Sheep that Have Wandered, James E Faust, April 2003)

Jesus heals a blind man John 9:2-3
Jesus commands that no one be cast out 3 Nephi 18: 30, 32

               





It is noted that what I say here reflects my views only and reflects nothing on BYU, Women's Conference, or the views of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

27.4.14

Fav Musicals: an update

Warning: This post is probably for my own use for than for any type of audience.

So back in 2007 I wrote a post about the best musicals of all time. All time? I was a stupid, silly 24 year old. I'd like to amend that and say that I have a few new musicals to add to the list, away from the Rogers and Hammerstein fantasy world I apparently lived in. I'm not going to be presumptuous enough to say "of all time" but I will say that the new list includes musicals that have had an impact on me either to make me think, or make me happy, or reveal some truth, or are beautiful, or are just fun. I put them in alphabetical order because I can't really put them in any other order.

25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee
How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying
In the Heights
Next to Normal
Once
Songs for a New World
The Drowsy Chaperon
The Sound of Music (will always be on the list)

I'm very much into the music. There are some musicals that did not make the list because I truly, really only have the music. So, some of my favorite songs are as follow (and some are from plays included in the previous list) but y'all should def google them.

Brooklyn's Here (Newsies): harmonies are killa
Endless Night (The Lion King): basically the prayer I pray whenever I'm down
Falling Slowly (Once): please someone sing this to me, so romantic but subtle
I'm Alive (Next to Normal): I think this is how our personal demons sound
I Believe in You (How to Succeed...): use this song to encourage myself
Naughty (Matilda): this song reminds me I'm in control of my own life
Suddenly Seymour (Little Shop of Horrors): a fun duet to sing
She's in Love (The Little Mermaid): another fun one, catchy tune
Sherry (Jersey Boys): listen to this getting ready for a night out when you look good
Superboy and the Invisible Girl (Next to Normal): what it feels like to be overlooked
There's a Fine, Fine Line (Avenue Q): a less pathetic look at unrequited love
The I Love You Song (25th Annual...): for a fun show, this is a deep song about parents
Who Will Love Me as I Am (Side Show): the song I sing to myself when I'm down about love



12.4.14

So, what's new?

General Conference weekend was family and faith filled. Twice a year I combined the two things that mean the most to me. In between sessions we inducted the children into the world of the put-as-much-sweetness-on-a-crepe world that the rest of us know and love. After the sessions we ate raclette and just laughed and talked and played. 

I look forward every month to our Ladies Dinner Club where, in addition to a delicious Italian meal, we made our own vanilla. It was my first time ever buying alcohol - let's hope we didn't screw it up. 

Stake Women's Conference, Organ Loft for a silent film with Lisa, a walk in the park, babysitting Eve, and more walking with Jennica. I reflect often on the great and good people who just keep coming into my life. 

Enjoyed so much time with my family. When I am with them I am myself and I am happiest then. 

Did a little road-trippin' to the Happiest Place on Earth with Freddie. This is where I learned that caffeine actually does affect me (I didn't sleep but one hour one of the nights), that the character breakfast is totally worth it, and that you can see everything in two parks if you have people you can rely on to have stamina. I've only been on Small World once in my life because it is always out of commission when I go.. as it was during this trip. Some people really dug my Doctor Who shirt (it says "I heart heart DW") which was basically a test of who's in and who's not. 


9.3.14

Little Bitty Pretty One

Kate and Steve became the proud parents of this little one, 13 days later than expected. Kate was a total champ and look at this product of all their work. I'm also especially tickled because she has my name. That's a thing. For an honor where you actually aren't required to do anything, this is the big one and I feel happily responsible.
Eve Megan with just regular Megan

Weekend Update 6.1564

There have been many weekend since I last updated and here are photos of some.
Kate's baby shower

Ballet West's Sleeping Beauty with Meredith. We sat behind to two ladies in the upper left and they were hilarious and way dressed up. 

Midway Ice Castles with Steph

Chasing Cupid 5 K with the Natalies.

Spent a fun-filled evening with these sweethearts. We played and played and got the first introductions to the wonderful world of Seven Brides for Seven Brothers while mom and dad attended the temple in Logan.

Cross country skiing with friends and family - even Mom joined in the fun. Let's go again!

Days of Love

It is not secret that Valentines is my absolute favorite holiday (see this post or this one or this one). This year's card making tea was the biggest and best so far. I've said it before and I'll say it again, it is a day of love - not just romantic love - but a time to love everyone.
“Since love is a magic, Valentine’s Day is the day of magicians! Whoever loves creates a magic; whoever is loved, a magic is created!” 
― Mehmet Murat ildan

2.2.14

Ending the Era

In 2007 I started at XYZ company* and on Friday I had my last day. It's a little bit surreal to leave one's first real job. Previous jobs I had to leave for some reason - I was attending school, it was the end of an internship, I was moving. This time there was no reason except that I wanted to quit and I had a new job. It was just time to move on.
I thought my leaving would be devastating to others, because apparently I'm that necessary (at least in my own head). I'm glad to report that it was not devastating, though enough upsetting to stroke my ego just a bit. I'm glad it wasn't too devastating because I know that when I decide to leave another job things with everyone will carry on.
On Friday I spent the day with clients and doing paperwork. It was the first and only time I've ever really left the office with all my paperwork done and knowing no more would show up. I like wrapping things up nicely. That's what's nice about cleaning.
A panoramic of my final office. I had four. 
 I went out to lunch with my cotherapists. It was really nice and kind of uncomfortable because it was a lot of attention on me, which is also odd because being shy isn't really me. My cotherapist Susan returned this book "Fascinating Womanhood" which she'd ended up with from me a few years ago at our annual white elephant exchange (which, interestingly, has nothing to do with white elephants). The book is a 1963 version of womanhood which is rather horrific and hilarious ("Chapter III: Accept a Man at Face Value" and "Chapter XV Feminine Dependency") but I didn't want it back. "Open it," she urged me. There she'd collected messages from many of my coworkers. Finally, something worth reading in that book. I thought it was rather sweet and meaningful.

The ending meant a lot to me too because working at XYZ we don't get most of the perks of other companies (lots of my friends work for those companies and I get a little envious). We don't get bonuses, we don't get swag, no one rents out the movie theater, we usually don't get our continuing education paid for, we even pay for our own meals when we have "parties." Mostly we get to be a teenager's emotional punching bag... and to do a lot of the previously mentioned paperwork. So I felt like the day was a thank you, and that's not something any of us in the field and at such places get/got a lot.
It also made me feel like the years of really mucky work that were much more intense and unpredictable and chaotic than anyone could know unless you are in it were worthwhile. I learned so so so much in six years. More than I think I'll probably learn in the next six, if we're being honest. When you work with people who can't live at home because their emotional state is so extreme you pick up some things. Along with learning about mental illness, the human condition, and all the crazy things that can go wrong and all the weird things that really happen in life, I learned to be less afraid in some ways (in some ways I'm more afraid because I know what gross teenage boys are thinking). I'm not afraid to stand up to people, even clients. I'm not afraid to tell people how to parent. I'm not afraid to talk about awkward things - in fact, I kind of relish it. Awkward is my comfort zone. I'm not afraid to ask for what I need from someone. I'm not afraid to have someone mad at me. I'm not afraid to try something that might blow up in my face. And now, I'm not afraid to leave it.



*This is apparently the name of a real company but in context of this post, it's just a pseudonym.